Simplify your dating life: The essentials

Article published on: August 7, 2014

Over the years, dating has changed in many different ways. We’ve now progressed into modern times and this seems to have had a knock on impact on the way we react when it comes to dating and love, especially with the advent of new technologies, like social media for example. As exciting as it may seem to get too involved with internet dating, there’s really no reason to do so, as it often has a negative impact on the rest of our lives and over complicates things.

Although it can be a time when both parties go out to have a lot of fun, it can also end up having a massive impact on the rest of your life and determine your future in a huge way. Someone who you go for coffee with may end up being the person you spend the rest of your life with.

We hear so many people complaining about how their dating life, and one of the main reasons is because they simply over complicate what they are doing. This blog will focus on how you can simplify your dating life, and you’ll be surprised at just how much of an impact doing this can have.

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Only stick to dating one person at a single time

It’s surprising that this has become a thing, but some people believe that it’s perfectly fine to go out with more than one person at a time. Excuses range from “I want things to be exciting”, to “I don’t want to be bored”, but both are equally ridiculous.

If a person goes out with more than one person, some rather awkward complications can occur. What if you accidentally call someone the wrong name? What if you bump into one of your dates whilst you’re with the other? These are all things that have happened to people, and they never end well.

Simply get to know a person for who they are. Spend time talking and going out so you can get a real feel for what they’re actually like. In the case that you think a person isn’t suitable for you, simply explain to them in an understanding way. You may need to pluck up courage, but a person will appreciate this more than being in a relationship that has no love at all.

Don’t always rely on your friends for advice

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Of course, our friends are always there for us in the worst of situations, but that doesn’t mean that they always have the best advice. Someone who has been rejected many a time is going to be more bitter than a friend who is in relationship that has lasted a good few years.

It’s all about taking responsibility. Take what your friends say with a pinch of salt. What they tell you may be absolutely amazing, or it may be something you really need to never consider. Go with your gut instinct, as you’ll be surprised at how good a spontaneous decision can be.

Be completely honest

Honesty is the best policy, fact. There are very few things worse than dating someone for a long period of time, just to discover that they’ve been keeping a secret from you for all that time.

In any relationship the two major things that make it work is honesty and understanding. You can’t have understanding without honesty, so if you come clean as you start dating someone, you can be surprised at how strong a bond can develop.

People aren’t as scary as they may seem in your head. A lot of people are understanding, and if someone spends time listening to you it’s a good sign that someone’s worth dating. If a person simply ignores what you’re saying, or refuses to carry on dating you if you tell them one of your secrets, perhaps they aren’t worth dating anyway.

Don’t change who you are for anyone

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This is something that’s really sad to see, especially if you were good friends with that person. A lot of people choose to change how they act so they can seem more appealing to the person they’re dating.

It’s the most absurd thing anyone can do. Isn’t dating a person about finding someone you have feelings for who you are? If you start to be someone who is completely different from who you normally are, what’s the point?

If a person doesn’t like who you are personality wise, leave them be. You are who you are, and you should never bend to someone for the sake of their happiness. It’s a good sign of what a person is like if they choose to ignore you for this reason.

Look good

When you start dating a person you’re trying to make the best impression you can. Although you should definitely be yourself, you don’t want to turn up in the clothes that you normally wear for lounging around at home.

Don’t let this be a major worry to you though. Your date isn’t expecting you to be a professional model or a bodybuilder, but they aren’t expecting someone who smells or looks they shouldn’t be out the house.

Simple grooming and investing a little money in new clothes can make you look good and also boost your moral. As vain as it sounds, it can be a treat to check yourself out in the mirror when you’ve spent the time to look great.

Although you may prefer to dress in lounging about clothes, that’s best saved for when the two of you get to know each other better and things are a more serious. Remember, people like to spend time with people that look pleasant rather than a person who looks like they’ve thrown on what they have simply found on the floor.

Don’t be afraid to state what you want

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Remember when we previously stated that understanding is one of the fundamental aspects of any relationship? This is true when it comes to what you want. It doesn’t matter if it happens on the very first date or the 50th, you don’t get something if you don’t ask for it.

There’s really no point at sitting around and hoping that you’ll get what you want. A lot of people are completely oblivious when this happens, and unless a person directly explains what they want, it’ll be a continuous cycle of miscommunication.

One of the great things that occurs when a person is direct with what they want is that it shows how confident they are. Confidence is an attractive attribute to have, and it has been proven to impress a lot of people during the dating phase.

Don’t be scared

Possibly one of the most important pieces of advice on this list, don’t be scared when you’re dating someone. It’s a massive turnoff if someone can barely utter a “hello”, without looking like they’re on the brink of tears.

An important part of dating is confidence, as it shows that you’re someone that can be trusted. The number of times someone has been frightened and people have coined it off as not having suitable social skills is numerous.

When you start to date someone, think of it as getting to know a friend you don’t know that well. It’s from here that you can figure out if someone can fit into your life as someone you have strong feelings for. Just be who you are, that’s all a person can ask for.

Compliments go a long way

If someone has taken the time and effort out of their day to get themselves ready for a date with you, the least you can do is give them a compliment. Whether it be on how they’re dressed, or how they smile, just a few simple words can make someones day.

It’s important that what you say is true. You don’t want someone to start to doubt that the words you speak are lies. This goes onto over complimenting someone. The first time you say someone looks good, it feels good, but if you carry on consistently for the next hour then it can start to wear a bit thin.

Both sexes love to be complimented, and a lot of the time something that has been said stays with a person for the rest of their life. If they have something to remember you by you may find that your relationship can grow even stronger.

Dating, it doesn’t have to be a stressful time

A lot of people make things complicated for themselves and make dating more stressful than it has to be. This is an amateur mistake, and it can make things uncomfortable for both parties.

Dating should be fun. You get to spend nights out getting to know someone for who they are, and both of you have the intention of making a good impression on each other, which is a formula for a memorable night. Enjoy the times you have, never think of dating as a chore.

By following the advice we have listed above you’ll be sure to have a great time when out on a date. It isn’t about spending thousands of pounds and trying to be flashy, it’s about the experience you have. If you want more advice on what to do on a date, or where to go, check out the rest of our blogs, you may just discover something that you fancy trying out.