Blind Date Survival Guide

Article published on: September 1, 2014

When thinking of blind dates, Blind Date tv show or Take Me Out may spring to mind, and the panic of a night out with a stranger can loom on the mind. This doesn’t have to be the case though, and a blind date can give you the chance to meet a new friend or possibly something more. The key to a great blind date is keeping an open mind and having the right attitude.

In this guide we’ll take you through the many stages involved with a blind date, from contact before meeting, the main event right through to goodbyes or see you sooners. There’s absolutely no reason to feel dread upon a friend or relative offering to set you up with their friend or acquaintance.

Before the Date preparations

So, your cupid has approached you with just the ‘perfect’ person for you to meet. After deliberating you say ‘yes’, as does your date to be. After all, what have you got to lose? Before even going on the date, however, there are a number of things to do in order to make sure every goes smoothly.

Have an Open Mind

As important as anything else on the date is having an open mind and not coming into it with too many preconceptions. Remain positive, but realistic. Expecting to be on a date with Scarlett Johansson or Beyonce may be a little too optimistic, but it’s just as unlikely you’re being set up with someone who you wouldn’t find attractive.

The best mental state to be in is to expect a lovely evening with some new company, this way you’re prepared mostly for what the date will be like. If nothing else, blind dates are great ways to meet new people, so even if you don’t hit it off as a couple you could always stay great friends.

Mentally Prepare

Get ready to be conversational, blind dates can be one of the best nights of your life should you engage and have the right mindset going into the date. Nothing ventured is nothing gained, and if you go into the date with the wrong attitude you’ll regret it.

Contact your Date

As part of the preparation for the date, you’ll need to decide what you’re actually going to do. It’s a good idea to get in contact with your date and arrange these things. Not only will it allow you two to have the first conversation, easing tension before the meeting, but you can also prepare for the perfect date. Make sure to ask the matchmaker that this is ok though, so that your date will be expecting a call!

Ask what their interests are and what sort of things they like to eat. There’s no point taking them to a bakery if they have a gluten allergy, or if they’re a vegetarian to a steakhouse! Have some suggestions on hand though, so that you don’t appear too passive. Most importantly make sure you get a time and place set in stone and you’ll almost be ready to go on your blind date.

Plan the date

Having spoken about what they’re interested in, what are you going to plan? A great idea for a blind date is something like an outdoor or physical activity. Mini golf for instance is a strong choice, because it gives a structure to the icebreaking section that allows you to converse but also gives you something else to do should it not flow naturally.

This also makes opportunities for personal contact, whilst making sure it’s appropriate, but allowing each other to see if there’s any attraction. If things aren’t going as well as planned then there’s still the activity to focus on, and at the end gives the chance to agree to leaving as friends.

Should the activity go well, make sure you’ve made a reservation at a restaurant that they will love. Noting their food preferences should make selecting a nearby restaurant and booking a table a thing of ease. Nothing can put the brakes on a rollercoaster romance like a long queue, or worse a last chance trip to a fast food outlet.

On the Date

First Impressions

First impressions can make a big difference, so be sure to have a warm and friendly greeting. This could be the person you spend the rest of your life with, so get off on the right foot. Don’t be too formal or keen though, remember this is the first meeting it’s meant to be fun and relaxed. The best advice to take away is to just be yourself, but do try to be on your better behaviour too.

Engage with your date

When speaking with your blind date, make sure you listen to what they have to say and take it in. Don’t just talk about yourself, showing interest in others will reap its own rewards and help you decide whether this person is the love of your life or a great friend.

Don’t be too personal

Remember, it’s only a first date and no one likes to talk about exes. Try to keep conversation fun and chatty, this is a date, not therapy.

Making Conversation

Following on from that point, make sure you’re both engaging in conversation that’s interesting for both parties. If you can’t think of anything immediately, why not talk about the matchmaker, giving some guaranteed common ground? The activity can be used to great effect here again, by returning to the experiences of the previous events you can pave the way for flowing dialogue.

Don’t Scrimp on money

When it comes to first impressions, coming across as cheap can be a real turn off. Try to resist using that 2 for 1 coupon you’ve got swimming around your wallet and treat your date. Pay can make or break a date, and on the night that could mean the most in your life, it’s just not worth trying to save some cash.

The end of and post-date

How did the date go? Would you like to see this person again? At this point it should be clear whether it went well, and if one person had a great time it’s unlikely the other person didn’t too. If it went well, let them know! As then if they’d be interested in meeting up again next week and leave with a hug or kiss on the cheek, don’t be overeager.

If you don’t think you’d like to continue this would be relationship, then there’s nothing wrong with saying this, but don’t be too harsh. This person is a friend of your friend or relative, and its likely you may meet up again, so if you feel you should part ways do so honestly. Even if you just say you had a nice time, the matchmaker will most likely let them and yourself know what each party thought.

Bling Date Survival Guide

As you can see, a blind date doesn’t have to be complicated or nerve wrecking and often can be fun and enjoyable experiences, even if they don’t lead to anywhere. Most importantly, present yourself in the best possible way, be a gentleman and don’t forget to have fun.